You vs. Your Blog

Imagine you're an attorney. Imagine you're a successful, 30-something lesbian attorney with a dry wit and hilarious dog. You date around, you live the high life. It's fodder ripe for an anonymous blog.

So you blog.

None of your readers know who you are. In fact pretty much everyone assumes you're a man, based on your profession and the many women you date and write about.

You have friends, though. And your friends know the real you behind the blog.

Of course you have a Facebook profile as well, and it uses your real name but doesn't mention your blog. Your Twitter handle is your blog avatar, and you tweet as "anonymous blogger," but of course your friends know who you really are.

But your blog followers don't.

You have girlfriends. Sometimes you have many, occasionally you have one.

Then you have only one serious one and you tell the world about all the many millions of things you love about her. She becomes part of who you are.

Then you break up.

Or do you?

You say yes, the blogger says no. The girlfriend still appears all over the blog. And Twitter.

Somehow girlfriend (who your friends know both by real name and by blog avatar) still comments on your Facebook wall even though you have unfriended girlfriend. Your friends (real friends) have no idea how this is even possible.

Communication with you becomes scarce. You tell your friends one story. The blog tells another.

The lines become blurred. Either you or blogger isn't telling the truth, and no one's sure which.

Your friends don't know who they're really friends with.